“I Thought I Needed More Willpower…”
For a long time, I thought I had a willpower problem.
I couldn’t focus.
I couldn’t stop stress eating.
I found myself snapping at the people I love — and then feeling guilty about it.
And like so many women, I blamed myself.
I told myself I needed:
• a stronger mindset
• more discipline
• another productivity hack
But the truth was much simpler — and far kinder:
My nervous system was screaming.
It wasn’t a character flaw.
It wasn’t laziness.
It wasn’t a lack of motivation.
It was dysregulation.
When your nervous system is overloaded, everything feels harder. Focus disappears. Cravings spike. Emotional tolerance shrinks. And no amount of forcing yourself through will fix that.
What I actually needed wasn’t more effort.
It was regulation.
Here’s what changed everything for me:
• Morning breathwork to reset my system before the day began
• Infrared sauna followed by a cold plunge to train my nervous system to adapt and recover
• Sound frequency healing to activate the vagus nerve and bring my body back into balance
That combination didn’t just calm me down.
It gave me my clarity back.
My energy.
My edge.
And here’s something important to understand:
Regulation isn’t soft.
It’s strategic.
Especially when you’re building something big — a business, a family, a life that requires resilience.
You don’t need to force yourself into alignment.
You don’t need more pressure.
You need more flow.
Because when your nervous system is regulated, willpower becomes unnecessary — focus returns naturally, decisions get easier, and your body starts working with you instead of against you.
You’re not broken.
You’re just overloaded.
And regulation is the way back.